Obsession Is Blinding
The more you desire a certain outcome, the less likely you are to see the truth. The first thing that came to mind was a weight loss promise. “I can guarantee 30-40 pounds of weight loss in one single session. Cut your leg off. You will be down the weight, but life won’t get easier.” If we obsess over things, then we will miss the important things to enrich our lives. Now since there are sticklers about everything nowadays, it still must be said. HAVE GOALS AND AMBITION. It is not to have zero passion for things but allow yourself some space to learn and change along with the plan.
We all have obsessed over the wrong thing before, whether an addiction issue, a relationship, or just a personal standard. Fixation is dangerous and blinding. Do we understand the why to these behaviors need to occur? Per our usual scapegoat, people are amazing at rationalizing the irrational. We create scenarios and then try to bring them as we perceive it. However, that perfect scene is not going to play out perfectly. I liken it to the Mike Tyson quote, “Everyone has a plan, until they are punched in the face.” Perfect probably will not happen. You don’t control it all. For myself, I wanted to get leaner and leaner until my physique was “perfect.” Turns out closer to “perfect” feels like shit for me. The more weight I lost, the worse I felt. So, I should give up on losing weight? No. I need to understand, why is that the focus and know I can shift goals. I have struggle to stay under 200lbs for a year. At the time of writing this. I weighed in at 196lb. The goal is 185-190 pounds. Therefore, I am failing my goal. However, my photos have changed. I look different, but the weight doesn’t change. That is okay. I don’t want to feel bad if I can help it. Like most, I want to enjoy life.
Why is it that we can obsess over goals? For starters, it could be linked to our identity. We might be inherently driven, but we cannot sprint life forever. So, when we rest or take a break, it can feel terrible. We can tell ourselves that we are missing out on something.
I hope this helps:
You don’t need others approval- Obsessing over approval means won’t live for yourself. You will end up a side character in your own life. Seek your approval of self by doing things you would like to see in yourself.
Seek self-forgiveness. You will fail. A lot. A lot. Obsessing over improvement and then getting angry with about personal results will haunt you. Understand that you are stuck with you until the end of the road. Learn to accept that it will get better. But in time.
Double the time for half the results. Like a weight loss journey or home renovations, the price we pay is often going to be twice as much and take twice as long. You get a whole life. Like forgiving yourself, it will take time. If we obsess at the speed, we miss the lessons along the way. Therefore, we will have to relive the same things.
You might just feel, or a thought enters your mind. Your unthinking reactions are just that. Unthinking. Quick. Mindless. Instinct. Your thoughts are just thoughts. Your thoughts are not good or bad. They just are there. You choose how to interact with them. You don’t even have to forgive the thoughts. You can let them pass and you can think about then next thing through. If you obsess over your thoughts, I bet it’s not a fun time to begin with. Watch something else or focus on just breathing. Funny thing, breathing is the step to mediation.
